Are you constantly telling your co-workers how to do their jobs better? Nagging your spouse to do things more like you do? Incessantly questioning your teen about who he's going to ask to the Homecoming dance? If so, you may be exhibiting some classic signs of a controlling person, namely needing to control the actions of others for fear that they will fail miserably without your advice.

"People who are controlling have a basic insecurity and lack of trust for life and other people," . "They feel that either they are the only ones who can do the job or that they need to micromanage others to force them to do what is right."

Often, controlling people have good intentions. They're , because they're sure that you won't know what to do otherwise.

And while some controlling behaviors are obvious - demanding that you do something, or telling you how and when to do it - others are much more subtle (though just as invasive). A controlling person may:

• Be a master at guilting you into things. "But you know I hate driving downtown, why can't you just pick up my parents at the airport for me?"
• Put conditions on their love for you. "If you don't keep the house more tidy, I'm going to move in with my brother."
• Threaten self-destruction to get their way. "I might do something crazy if you don't come home by 11."
• Make you feel like you owe it to them. "I quit my job to raise you, the least you can do is spend some time with me."
• Belittle you or make you feel incompetent. "Look what happened the last time you went against my advice."
• Act incompetent, victimized, sick or too stressed to do something, just so you have to do it. "I'm so exhausted I couldn't possibly stay late today to finish this report, could you do it?"
• Intimidate you into doing what they want. "Don't make me tell you again or you'll be sorry!"

"Controlling behaviors not only cause stress to the ones who are being controlled but the people who are controlling usually feel very stressed as well because they can never fully let go,"  . "This is obviously not just in business relations but in family and familiar relations as well."

Getting to the Root of Controlling Behavior and Letting it Go

At the heart of controlling people is an intense fear of losing control of their life, from a personal, financial, or professional perspective. All control stems from a lack of confidence in yourself, and in the people in your life.

"Controlling people are holding onto a feeling of being out of control, so they are desperately trying to do external things to regain the control and security they feel they are lacking,"

Releasing the Feelings That Cause Impulsive Behaviors

This is why it's so important to let go of your urges for self-sabotaging impulsive behaviors using Yoganidra. This do-it-yourself tool will show you how to tap into your inner ability to release impulsive urges immediately, on the spot.

"Any strong feeling that we do not release can cause us to react impulsively instead of act proactively," 

According to Yoganidra Studies, the most common feelings that cause you to over-shop, gamble, drink or engage in other impulsive behaviors are:

• The lust for more and for different experience
• The feeling of incompleteness that we often try to fill up with impulsive activity
• The fear of living life fully and wanting to escape instead
• The feeling of wanting to lose control
• The feeling that somehow if we have more or win we will finally be OK

As you begin working with Yoganidra Technique, these are the feelings you can focus on releasing so that you're able to regain full control of your actions and your life.